I believe all people are thirsty for love, kindness and understanding in life. And I strongly believe that all relationships between people in general, definitely a couple, should be based on those needs. I know people are different and nobody (not even I) is perfect, yet I believe there is that ONE special somebody, a soul mate, a person to share and experience the world with, somebody who will finish my sentences and laugh from my jokes, the ONE that will feel me. And personally, I am not willing to compromise on nothing else; even if it means that I will be at the age of 90 when I find him (as one of my friends pointed out today).
Look, I am not being naïve or extremely romantic, I just really think it cannot work any other way, and you, couples around me, are my best argument.
- People who are kind and loving to each other DO NOT hurt each other and do not make each other miserable. You would not hurt your best friend, or your sister.
- Soul mates are MATES; none of you are! You are him and her. To me, a mate is somebody to have a fun beers night with. Somebody to fool around with. And of course somebody to share your ideas for life, you should be able to share your deepest thoughts, that's what you do with your best friend, right? So why not with your life partner?
- People who understand each other might not have the same interest in play station, but they understand your enthusiasm.
- Sharing the world is more than sharing an apartment, or a couple of children. Communication and mutual interests are necessity in my opinion. What do you do otherwise except watching TV? With all your friends you have something in common, to burn fun couple of hours, right?
- The get together with her/his friends should be FUN, not a punishment; you have something in common, right? Remember how Carrie worried that Big will not like her friends :-) (again, 'Sex and the city').
All these small things will eventually take you apart from each other, grow into bitterness. You will feel lonely, like nobody understands you in the all world. You don't even really talk to the closest person who you share the world with. And you don't really have any friends left. Think about it!
I believe no special one can fulfill all my needs, I am not talking about being the world for each other; I am talking about sharing. And each of course, is a rich world on its own.
But really, what do I know about relationships? Sleeping over, is my most meaningful relationship for now, so easy for me to say, ah?
Anyway, nothing personal, it is just a general observation and has nothing to do with you; I was just thinking loud...
Be well!
4 comments:
Good post on relationships.
I have not been into a significantly long time relation to comment on this.
But I think, it is about "me" being the right person than asking the other person for being the right one.
We all can create un-happiness, wherever and whenever we want & opposite is also true. And, this can be due to our expectation of things, which are not in our direct control.
e.g. I might think that somebody is a soul-mate for me (every quality that I think is present in the other person) - But as things change, I also change, my expectations change & the other person might not be as what I want it to be.
Our grief comes from our expectation of the world (as we want it to be & will not be).
Dalai Lama would have something to say on relationship as well.
I found this while searching for "Buddhist view of relationship"
http://www.kusala.org/udharma7/marriedlife.html
I also feel that we will be really happy, if we give things than always wanting things. Very simple to write & tough to practice.
Dont worry about the job. Do what you can with your current abilities & soon you will be in the place, you want to be.
Best Wishes !!
Kalpesh
mmmm. you're pressing some buttons here...
I loved this post. I could relate with it. Keep sharing!!
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